Comments on: Life Inside the Infertility Bubble (And Taking a Break From “Trying”)

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 02:34:21 +0000

Good luck on your journey Jenn. Though I’m not in your same situation, I have to take extra steps to get pregnant and it is a little frustrating when you see all your friends getting pregnant and you know that it’s not that easy for you.

Reading your story and seeing your attitude certainly helps me knowing I’m not alone either.

I wish you the best!

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 25 Jan 2013 18:41:01 +0000

I completely understand. I’ve been coming back to this forum for a long time now it seems, waiting to see what other advice you could offer, and when I didn’t see any updates I knew that either you decided to step out for a while or it finally did happen! I found this blog very comforting. Comforting to know that there are others out there that we can share with. “Fertile” people just don’t understand the need, the yearning, the want, the suffering. They simply DON’T. They don’t understand when you remove yourself for the conversations about babies and pregnancies, they don’t understand the hidden tears when you go to showers, they don’t understand the resentment. I hate to say it, but I have resented others for being able to get pregnant and have their happy family. I still have those moments. I get very angry and withdrawn. I wish you ALL the luck in the world on your journey. I will still keep this blog in my favorites to check on it every now and again, but I understand the exhaustion. GOOD LUCK TO ALL!

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 02:05:49 +0000

Ya’ll rock. Thank you for the incredibly kind and supportive comments. If sharing my experience helps anyone feel better it’s totally worth it. 🙂

And for those going through it, we are so not alone.

—FBG Jenn

By: Maru

Maru — Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:02:27 +0000

Thank you sooo much for writing about it, I’m exactly where you are… Just went through a horribly sad failed iui and decided to take a break, mainly because I couldn’t handle it emotionally any more. Our next step will be ivf, in a couple of months when I feel ready to start that adventure. Also everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant lately… And so easily! It’s not that I’m not happy for them it’s just I’m sad about not being able to be there myself (sounds pretty selfish I know which only makes me feel worse). Having to talk about it with other people is pretty hard as well – and everyone wants to know when you’re going to have kids (if only it were up to me!).
Anyways just wanted to say – you’re not alone and thank you for letting me know I’m not either.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 21:07:02 +0000

Jenn, I think your comment about recognizing your own fertility in all the other things you create and do in your life is right on. I know I can’t relate to the struggles of infertility, but I can relate to the feeling of looking around and feeling like I’m not normal because I can’t do something that everyone else around me seems to be doing so easily, like losing the pregnancy weight, or accoplishing something at work, or even keeping my life organized. I don’t know how many times I’ve looked at my husband feeling like a complete failure at one thing or another and said, “Why is this so hard for me and so easy for everyone else?” And the answer is really that it’s not easy for *everyone* else. And the important thing to remember is to focus on all of our successes and accomplishments. I think it’s hard for perfectionists to accept that there are just going to be some things we aren’t good at or have no control over, but getting closer and closer to coming to grips with that will make our lives so much richer and happier.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 22 Jan 2013 16:56:12 +0000

Your attitude is amazing, Jenn. As someone who hasn’t had infertility struggles myself but has been close to many who have, I still never know quite what to say except that my heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best.

You do SO MUCH GOOD for so many women through this site and FBG, and I hope you know it!!!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 23:04:58 +0000

I have been in this bubble but rather than beat myself up over what i couldn’t do on my own and instead chose to dive right in and work with my specialist to do whatever I could to reach my goal. After complications from the infertility medication, an early term miscarriage, and finally a successful embryo transfer, I am now 30 days away from the birth of my first child.

By: Sasha

Sasha — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 20:17:27 +0000

HUGS! Thank you for sharing your journey so I don’t feel so alone in mine! No doubt, it stinks, but it’s just nice to know I’m not the only one dealing with the anguish and having to find peace and wholeness in my life without a baby necessarily being part of that picture (since most likely it won’t happen for me). My best wishes to you and heartfelt appreciation for your honesty.