Relationships Archives - Fit Bottomed Girls https://fitbottomedgirls.com/category/zen/relationships/ Health + fitness that's feminist AF Wed, 26 Nov 2025 17:08:19 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.2 122404920 Cancel Your Match.com Subscription and Buy Yourself a Vibrator: A Real Guide to Healing After Divorce https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2025/12/cancel-your-match-com-subscription-and-buy-yourself-a-vibrator-a-real-guide-to-healing-after-divorce/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2025/12/cancel-your-match-com-subscription-and-buy-yourself-a-vibrator-a-real-guide-to-healing-after-divorce/#respond Tue, 02 Dec 2025 10:00:48 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=317171 One of the biggest roadblocks to healing after divorce? People-pleasing. And you know exactly where that beast likes to rear its ugly head: dating. Especially those early-stage, “don’t rock the boat,” smiling-even-though-you’re-dying-inside moments. You swallow your irritation, plaster on a grin, and fall right back into the patterns that kept you small in your marriage—because that’s just how you’ve always rolled. Here’s the truth: every time you silence yourself to keep the peace, something else is taking the hit—something far more fragile. Your confidence. That super delicate, already-battered confidence leftover from the end of your marriage. And what is everyone…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2025/12/cancel-your-match-com-subscription-and-buy-yourself-a-vibrator-a-real-guide-to-healing-after-divorce/feed/ 0 317171 How to Have Courageous Conversations https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/07/how-to-have-courageous-conversations/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/07/how-to-have-courageous-conversations/#comments Tue, 14 Jul 2020 11:00:30 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=314248 How many courageous conversations have you had recently? We ask because now more than ever is the time to stand up and speak up — and also listen. In order to help you have more courageous conversations — that are hopefully filled with actual progress, kindness, and understanding — we reached out to Kjirsten Mickesh, co-founder and CEO of ConnectHuman, which she started with her son Taylor. ConnectHuman’s mission is to create human connection that improves well-being and performance. Connection Zoo, their kids’ product, teaches social and emotional skills to prepare kids for a happy, healthy life. Which, you know,…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/07/how-to-have-courageous-conversations/feed/ 14 314248 When ‘Good Vibes Only’ Goes Bad https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/04/when-good-vibes-only-goes-bad/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/04/when-good-vibes-only-goes-bad/#comments Wed, 01 Apr 2020 11:00:26 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=313471 There’s a reason we laugh when Always Look on the Bright Side of Life plays at the end of Monty Python’s Life of Brian — it’s absolutely absurd in the given setting. And yet, it’s not unusual for someone to offer comfort to a loved one who’s truly struggling by saying something like, “Just be positive,” or, “Good vibes only — you’ll get over it!” The intention is nothing but kind, but as Miami-based psychotherapist Whitney Goodman, LMFT pointed out on Instagram last year, there are often much better ways to offer someone validation and hope. In fact, she considers the…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/04/when-good-vibes-only-goes-bad/feed/ 2 313471 Mindfulness Practices to Help You Get Through Co-Working With Your Family https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/03/mindfulness-practices-to-help-you-get-through-co-working-with-your-family/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/03/mindfulness-practices-to-help-you-get-through-co-working-with-your-family/#respond Tue, 24 Mar 2020 11:00:43 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=313432 If you — like us — are suddenly co-working at home alongside your spouse, kids, and pets … you may be finding it to be a bit, ahem, challenging. We’ve got the guest post for you today. Margot Schulman is an activist, author, and facilitator as well as a love, sex, and relationship coach with more than 16 years of experience helping others to create peace, freedom, and love in their lives. Known as the “Love Activist” and as the founder of the Choose Love Movement, Margot is the author of Choose Love: A Simple Path to Healthy, Joyful Relationships.…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/03/mindfulness-practices-to-help-you-get-through-co-working-with-your-family/feed/ 0 313432 How Ending Negative Relationships Can Help Your Anxiety https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/02/how-ending-negative-relationships-can-help-your-anxiety/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/02/how-ending-negative-relationships-can-help-your-anxiety/#comments Thu, 06 Feb 2020 12:00:59 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=312839 A few months back we featured an excerpt from Julian Brass’s book, Own Your Anxiety: 99 Simple Ways to Channel Your Secret Edge — it was all about how to make anxiety one of your greatest strengths (yes, you read that right!). Today, we’re featuring another bit from the book that’s just as eye-opening and helpful: how ending negative relationships can help your own anxiety. Julian — founder and former CEO of award-winning Canadian media company Notable Life — shares his own experience in this guest post. And, makes quite the case of us all to take stock of who we…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2020/02/how-ending-negative-relationships-can-help-your-anxiety/feed/ 1 312839 An App for Tapping Into Your Sensual Side https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/an-app-for-tapping-into-your-sensual-side/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/an-app-for-tapping-into-your-sensual-side/#comments Thu, 11 Jul 2019 11:00:22 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=310779 Sex positivity (meaning that sex, as long as it’s healthy and truly consensual, is a good thing) is something I think about a lot. Maybe not as much as body positivity, or busting diet culture, or, you know, tacos — but, well, I’m in the midst of writing a romance novel, and as I’ve delved further and further into that world, I’ve become far more aware of how sex and self-confidence and feminism intersect. I’ve also realized how often love scenes either a) use humor as a vehicle to show a character making safe sex a priority, b) make the…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/an-app-for-tapping-into-your-sensual-side/feed/ 3 310779 How Your Thoughts Affect Others https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/how-your-thoughts-affect-others/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/how-your-thoughts-affect-others/#comments Fri, 05 Jul 2019 11:00:04 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=310494 We had the opportunity to talk to Dr. Bradley Nelson for the podcast months ago, and — I’ll own up to it — I TOTALLY geeked out. (Listen to the episode here.) His work in understanding how trapped emotions can actually be stored in the body and impact your health and happiness blew my mind when I first learned about it. And using his techniques to find them and release them? Well, it definitely changed my life. Dr. Nelson just released a revised and expanded edition of his bestselling book, The Emotion Code: How to Release Your Trapped Emotions for…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/07/how-your-thoughts-affect-others/feed/ 2 310494 Date Night Ideas That Actually Create Connection https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/05/date-night-ideas-that-actually-create-connection/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/05/date-night-ideas-that-actually-create-connection/#comments Thu, 23 May 2019 11:00:21 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=310123 Kindness has been shown to be a major determining factor in whether a relationship lasts (or, at least, whether the couple in question is happy together). But kindness isn’t just about doing nice things for your partner or offering compliments — it’s also about how you react to your partner’s attempts to connect in both big and small ways. Because, look. Communication and defaulting to kindness is easy when everything is going well. When you’re not getting along so well with your partner, however, it’s a much harder task. This article from 2014 is one I refer back to often,…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/05/date-night-ideas-that-actually-create-connection/feed/ 1 310123 How to (Really) Help an Injured Friend https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/03/how-to-really-help-an-injured-friend/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/03/how-to-really-help-an-injured-friend/#comments Thu, 28 Mar 2019 11:00:16 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=309594 I was a super active person until last summer. Between teaching several fitness classes per week, walking a few miles a day (hey, I’m a New Yorker!) and being a Fit Bottomed Girl who co-hosts and produces the Fit Bottomed Girl Podcast, exercise and being active is a big passion in my life. Then my life changed. One evening last August, I ordered some tacos for dinner and excitedly headed down the steps (I live on the second floor of a walkup) to greet the delivery guy. At some point, I felt myself spinning in the air and had no control…

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]]> https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/03/how-to-really-help-an-injured-friend/feed/ 4 309594 Be a Better Friend, Starting Today https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/01/be-a-better-friend-starting-today/ https://fitbottomedgirls.com/2019/01/be-a-better-friend-starting-today/#comments Thu, 24 Jan 2019 12:00:00 +0000 https://fitbottomedgirls.com/?p=309098 We’re all seeking connection. Humans are social creatures — yes, even those of us who truly enjoy spending time alone. via GIPHY Strong social connections make life better, but forging those social connections isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. via GIPHY One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that, to have better friends (and therefore stronger connections — the type where you feel heard and understood and supported for being exactly who you are), I need to be a better friend. And that’s not so hard, right? When I make an effort to treat my friends…

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